Author Archives: Heidi Fettig Parton

About Heidi Fettig Parton

I hold an MFA in creative nonfiction from Bath Path University. I write at the intersection of ecological and spiritual issues; I also write about the common experiences that unfold across women's lives, including marriage, motherhood, work matters (and vocation), divorce, and sexuality. Oh, and poetry is my drug of choice.

Another Amazing Divorce Essay, Not Mine

Today, I’m struggling through my first cold in over a year. It’s actually somewhat of a relief. I questioned whether my immune system was in overdrive this past year, never letting me get the colds that passed through the other … Continue reading

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I Do Not Have Dreadlocks, or Do I?

I wrote the poem, “I Do Not Have Dreadlocks,” just before turning 40, when my youngest was still a baby. My youngest turned eight years old yesterday and I have dreadlocks now, at least sort of, kind of, maybe. Never … Continue reading

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Brilliant Essay (not mine) on Parenting Post-Divorce

I’ve been rather busy this month. I think I’m back at my writing desk now, for the school year. I have nothing to share quite yet, but will provide a link to Penny Guisinger’s brilliant essay, which captures the experience … Continue reading

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Cabin Culture

Do you have a place to go when you need to reconnect with yourself or your past self? Do you have a place to go when you need emotional grounding or your soul needs tethering? Do you have a place … Continue reading

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On Manifesting One’s Dreams

Just over 15 years ago, I got divorced. At the time, I was a perfectionist (and still in recovery today). Divorce didn’t fit into my story about perfection. To complicate matters, in high school, I’d been voted “Most Likely to … Continue reading

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Dreaming of a Vintage-Postcard Fourth

In recent years, I’ve learned there is nothing more sweetly satisfying for a mom of adult children than to have all of your kids sleeping under one roof. While my young one, my seven-year old little man, will occupy my … Continue reading

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Remarriage After Divorce: Wait for a Good Dad

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